Parenthood is a full day work without any training. So all parents make mistakes, especially in the first years. To allow mistakes is quite natural, but to fix them is not. Psychotherapist Sean Grover calls us to gain courage in order to notice the wrong steps, recognize them and take them into account in the future.

Children add rocket fuel to our emotional life. We wake up in high spirits, and after an hour we are already losing out. We feel euphoria – and right there despair. And how we cope with these strong feelings, ultimately determines the quality of our relations with the child.

If you make mistakes quite naturally, then correct them – no. Courage is required to admit their mistakes, especially in front of children. Start from scratch again and build new, healthier relations with them is very difficult.

But parenthood is also a gift: children give us the opportunity to develop. Growing with children means becoming the best parent. And the best person too. So, let’s calculate the mistakes that each parent must make:

10. MicroMENCIPLE. Microeners – purposeful and hardworking people. They love children and want them to succeed. The problem is that they make too many for their children. As a result, children remain dependent on adults for a long time and experience great difficulties, entering into an independent life: they do not know how to control themselves, they lack energy and motivation.

Behave as you want your children to behave. Be what you want to see your child

Even despite high intelligence, they are emotionally immature. Stop leading a child, give him better tools that will help to develop independence. The more tasks your children successfully solve without your participation, the stronger the incentive to succeed in adulthood.

9. Connivance. Parents, as a

rule, always act from the best motives, but the rejection of all restrictions and prohibitions is one of the most catastrophic trends in education. When the father and mother indulge all the desires and needs of children, they do not know how to build equal relationships: they expect that everyone else will please them.

They evade problems and avoid difficult work. And live with the feeling that everyone should. They have a strange combination of low self -esteem and arrogance. Strive to arouse personal responsibility in children, encourage them to act and achieve goals. Connivance and expansion of authority are different things.

8. A bad example. Whether the parents want it or not, but they first of all become a role model for children, a role model. Mother and father, who are endlessly scandalous, accuse others, say a lie or play the role of the victim, involuntarily teach children to do the same. Reproach them for the poor behavior and the bad habits that you taught them, is like accusing the mirror of your reflection. Behave as you want your children to behave. Be what you want to see your child. Before accusing the children of their behavior, think about changing your own.